Motivation, motivation what is motivation! Many people think they know what motivation is, but do they? A little research will show you that the dictionary definition of motivation is "the psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal; the reason for the action; that which gives purpose and direction to behaviour". Ask people to define motivation, very few will give such a concise response. This is because at some level, motivation is intrinsically involved with every aspect of our lives. We have to have a certain level of motivation to achieve anything from the simplest tasks such as getting out of bed or going shopping, through to life goals such as having a successful career. Unfortunately, most people see motivation, as part of the destination rather than the fuel that is needed to get us to reach our chosen destination.
Not understanding what motivation is usually leads to disappointment in life either on a spiritual or materialistic level. One of the most common areas where the lack of a clear definition of what motivation is occurs in the area of goal setting. We all know and understand the concept of setting goals and working towards them to achieve what we want in life, but if you speak to any number of people about setting and achieving goals, they will tell you that their goals motivate them to achieve what they really want out of life. This fundamental confusion over what motivation is often leads to people not achieving their goals and full potential, in fact it often leads to greater de-motivation, as after each setback the belief in the goal becomes less strong leading to a perceived lower level of motivation to achieve the goal. It becomes a vicious circle. It is a situation that many of us have faced and the difficulties that this kind of position brings. It takes a long time for us to realise that goals and motivation are not the same and we should not treat them as such.
When you set your goals you're laying out the route and the destination you want to get to. When we are setting goals we are telling ourselves what do we want in life and how are we going to get there. What steps do we need to take? A list of goals will always allow us to move forward and give us a purpose in life, but they are not motivation in themselves.
Motivation is the fuel that inspires us to reach are goals and desires and allows us to keep getting up and moving towards our goals whenever we have a setback. Getting motivated and staying motivated gives us the energy we need to reach our goals in the shortest time possible. Motivation is required to meet our goals and goals are required to give purpose to our motivation. The two work hand in hand. If you get the motivation right you can achieve anything. So think seriously about how to get motivated and stay motivated so you can achieve whatever you desire.
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Sunday, 12 May 2013
Sunday, 28 April 2013
How to Feel More Motivated: Get Things Done!
If I have a bunch of things to do during the day, all those tasks get jumbled around in my head and I don't know where to start. Then the feeling of being overwhelmed comes along and it gets hard to even do anything at all.That's why it's so important to keep in mind where you want to go so you keep your goals on track. I've put together some tips to help you get your day organized and get you excited to accomplish your goals.
-The first thing that helps me is to make a list of what I want to get done that day. I always have to make this list or nothing will happen. So write down everything that you want to get done that day. Start with the things you'd like to get done first. Then write out everything and plan your day. Write your list in the morning or even better; get that list done the night before.
-Here's a great way to get you motivated: have some awesomequotes and affirmations handy that get you pumped. A great way to do this is to have a poster board with everything on it that motivates you. Here are some examples of what is on my board:
I inspire people.
I work from anywhere in the world.
What you think is what you get.
"Those who follow the part of themselves that is great will become great. Those that follow the part that is small, will become small." -Mencius
-Make a "Passion To-Do List" that has everything on it that you're passionate about and make sure you do at least one thing from it a day. It's important to have a way to release so your mind is clear and you canfocus . When you're focused you will get a lot more accomplished. Your list can include anything that you're passionate about. What do you love to do? What makes you happy? What do you do to free yourself from stress ? What do you like to learn about?
-Without this next one I'd have way more freak-outs during the day. If you feel frustrated with the task you're doing or the energy just doesn't feel right, then walk away. You'll get way more done if you get away from it and get the good energy flowing again. Go for a walk. Turn the music up and do a silly dance. If it's a nice day, go stand in the sun. Take some deep breaths and stretch. Then once you feel more centered come back to it. You'll be amazed at how much more clearly you can think. When your mind is clear, that's when the awesome ideas come.
There's a great feeling that comes with getting your to-do list done. You will feel accomplished and that will give you more energy to do whatever else you're aspiring to do. Then before you know it, you'll be a pro! You'll feel excited and you can look back on everything that you've accomplished
-The first thing that helps me is to make a list of what I want to get done that day. I always have to make this list or nothing will happen. So write down everything that you want to get done that day. Start with the things you'd like to get done first. Then write out everything and plan your day. Write your list in the morning or even better; get that list done the night before.
-Here's a great way to get you motivated: have some awesome
I inspire people.
I work from anywhere in the world.
What you think is what you get.
"Those who follow the part of themselves that is great will become great. Those that follow the part that is small, will become small." -Mencius
-Make a "Passion To-Do List" that has everything on it that you're passionate about and make sure you do at least one thing from it a day. It's important to have a way to release so your mind is clear and you can
-Without this next one I'd have way more freak-outs during the day. If you feel frustrated with the task you're doing or the energy just doesn't feel right, then walk away. You'll get way more done if you get away from it and get the good energy flowing again. Go for a walk. Turn the music up and do a silly dance. If it's a nice day, go stand in the sun. Take some deep breaths and stretch. Then once you feel more centered come back to it. You'll be amazed at how much more clearly you can think. When your mind is clear, that's when the awesome ideas come.
There's a great feeling that comes with getting your to-do list done. You will feel accomplished and that will give you more energy to do whatever else you're aspiring to do. Then before you know it, you'll be a pro! You'll feel excited and you can look back on everything that you've accomplished
Sunday, 21 April 2013
Energy and Motivation for Success
It takes constant, focused energy and motivation to carry out all of the projects and plans necessary to complete a designated goal, which is why the idea of success can feel intimidating for most people. Here are some barriers and action steps to help you ignite your energy and motivation for success.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
Monday, 8 April 2013
Desperate For Success? Find Out The 100 Day Challenge - An Action Plan That Breed Success
Success does not always look the same. It comes in many forms, and what is success to one may not mean anything to someone else. In spite of a different look, there are at least two elements of success that are identical for everyone who experiences it. First, success is a goal that is worthy of pursuit. And second, and success takes hard work.
You have heard it said, "Where there is a will, there is a way." This is true of success. There is a way, no matter what your current circumstances are. There have been tons of books, articles, and motivational programs produced to show you the way to success. This article is simple, yet powerful. It will point out 5 tips that will help you find your way toward success.
1. Start by focusing on a goal you like
This is helpful especially if you are just starting your journey toward success. You can increase your chances for success exponentially if you have a passion for what you are working toward. You can begin by brainstorming with a close friend or spouse. Make sure it is someone who shares your desire for success. List all your skills and interests on a sheet of paper or a computer document. Don't leave anything out, even if it does not seem relevant. For instance, if you are good at making animal balloons, write it down... you never know where the inspiration will come from. Again, make sure you list everything. Some of the greatest ideas come from brainstorming sessions where there are no rules. Then go through your list and narrow it down to the one or two things you are most passionate about that can become a career choice.
2. Develop a Plan
The one thing most people fail to do is write down their plan. If you don't have a plan, how will you know where to go or what to do? Architects would not get far if they just "told" someone about their idea for a building. Neither should you begin your journey to success without a roadmap of how to get there.
Even if the written plan is not complete, write it down. You can fill in the details as the plan develops. It needs to have goals for each step of the process, including dates for completion. It should also include methods and materials that will help you to complete each step. If you know people who can help you along the way, write down their names. Make sure your plan is complete. Leave nothing to the imagination at this point.
Oh, and don't forget to keep a calendar and journal of your journey. It will be very helpful to see how you moved forward. Don't skip any days, even if you didn't do anything that day. It will be a reminder that tomorrow you need to get back on track.
3. Don't let your circumstances change you, Change your circumstances
"If you keep on doing what your doing, you will keep on getting what you got." This quote from Zig Ziglar makes sense.
It's crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing over and over the same way and expect different results. It's your choice. You can plod along through life letting your circumstances beat you up every day, or you can take action to change those circumstances. Granted, sometimes this does not look like it is the case, but you always have a choice, even if it is just the way you think about a situation. Your thoughts are powerful, and they can change the way you see yourself, thus changing your life. Don't allow those circumstances to keep you where you are. It does not have to be something huge, but you have the power to change something. Taking this positive step will eventually lead to your success. Don't ever forget that you have the same power in you as anyone else. Everyone starts out in life with nothing. You have a clean slate every day. It is your choice. What will be written on your slate today?
4. Attitude Is More Important Than Aptitude - Make Sure Yours Is Unstoppable
There is no one that can keep you from having a great attitude except you. You may not have the greatest education or the most resources, but you have control over your attitude. A positive attitude will literally open doors for you. It is the number one element of successful people.
5. Develop a Passion for Education
You don't have to be a student in school to continue your education. Every day should be a learning experience, even if you learn something that did not work. Most people know that Thomas Edison failed many times when trying to invent a light bulb. Yet when questioned about his failures, he straightened out that reporter with a statement that you should take to heart. He simply said, "I did not fail 10,000 times, I merely discovered 10,000 ways that did not work." Each of us should have a similar attitude. Learning from your mistakes is a valuable kind of education. Don't dismiss it as failure. Passion for education is still another stepping stone in the path of success.
Success seems to elude many of us while it seems to be so easy for others. What do you want in life? Is it success? If so, make a decision to go get it.
The 100-Day Challenge breeds successful individuals in five ways:
1. Provide focus on something you are passionate about
2. Develop a plan
3. Show you how important it is to take control of circumstances
4. Develop an attitude for success
5. Provides education that breeds success.
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You have heard it said, "Where there is a will, there is a way." This is true of success. There is a way, no matter what your current circumstances are. There have been tons of books, articles, and motivational programs produced to show you the way to success. This article is simple, yet powerful. It will point out 5 tips that will help you find your way toward success.
1. Start by focusing on a goal you like
This is helpful especially if you are just starting your journey toward success. You can increase your chances for success exponentially if you have a passion for what you are working toward. You can begin by brainstorming with a close friend or spouse. Make sure it is someone who shares your desire for success. List all your skills and interests on a sheet of paper or a computer document. Don't leave anything out, even if it does not seem relevant. For instance, if you are good at making animal balloons, write it down... you never know where the inspiration will come from. Again, make sure you list everything. Some of the greatest ideas come from brainstorming sessions where there are no rules. Then go through your list and narrow it down to the one or two things you are most passionate about that can become a career choice.
2. Develop a Plan
The one thing most people fail to do is write down their plan. If you don't have a plan, how will you know where to go or what to do? Architects would not get far if they just "told" someone about their idea for a building. Neither should you begin your journey to success without a roadmap of how to get there.
Even if the written plan is not complete, write it down. You can fill in the details as the plan develops. It needs to have goals for each step of the process, including dates for completion. It should also include methods and materials that will help you to complete each step. If you know people who can help you along the way, write down their names. Make sure your plan is complete. Leave nothing to the imagination at this point.
Oh, and don't forget to keep a calendar and journal of your journey. It will be very helpful to see how you moved forward. Don't skip any days, even if you didn't do anything that day. It will be a reminder that tomorrow you need to get back on track.
3. Don't let your circumstances change you, Change your circumstances
"If you keep on doing what your doing, you will keep on getting what you got." This quote from Zig Ziglar makes sense.
It's crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing over and over the same way and expect different results. It's your choice. You can plod along through life letting your circumstances beat you up every day, or you can take action to change those circumstances. Granted, sometimes this does not look like it is the case, but you always have a choice, even if it is just the way you think about a situation. Your thoughts are powerful, and they can change the way you see yourself, thus changing your life. Don't allow those circumstances to keep you where you are. It does not have to be something huge, but you have the power to change something. Taking this positive step will eventually lead to your success. Don't ever forget that you have the same power in you as anyone else. Everyone starts out in life with nothing. You have a clean slate every day. It is your choice. What will be written on your slate today?
4. Attitude Is More Important Than Aptitude - Make Sure Yours Is Unstoppable
There is no one that can keep you from having a great attitude except you. You may not have the greatest education or the most resources, but you have control over your attitude. A positive attitude will literally open doors for you. It is the number one element of successful people.
5. Develop a Passion for Education
You don't have to be a student in school to continue your education. Every day should be a learning experience, even if you learn something that did not work. Most people know that Thomas Edison failed many times when trying to invent a light bulb. Yet when questioned about his failures, he straightened out that reporter with a statement that you should take to heart. He simply said, "I did not fail 10,000 times, I merely discovered 10,000 ways that did not work." Each of us should have a similar attitude. Learning from your mistakes is a valuable kind of education. Don't dismiss it as failure. Passion for education is still another stepping stone in the path of success.
Success seems to elude many of us while it seems to be so easy for others. What do you want in life? Is it success? If so, make a decision to go get it.
The 100-Day Challenge breeds successful individuals in five ways:
1. Provide focus on something you are passionate about
2. Develop a plan
3. Show you how important it is to take control of circumstances
4. Develop an attitude for success
5. Provides education that breeds success.
Discover how you can become the successful person you desire to be by taking the http://www.guyfinley.com/Welcome/4/CD12181/0
Saturday, 30 March 2013
Top Weightloss Tip Stay Motivated!
While motivation levels vary from day to day, and even hour to hour, the initial force must be strong enough for the person to exercise or stick to a diet for top weightloss results. It is natural to be motivated at the beginning of any program, but to keep up with the restraint can be extremely demanding. Top weightloss stories of people recount of how they have achieved the goal, and all of them have one thing in common, deep seated commitment and perseverance. Best weight loss tips include setting reasonable goals. Setting impossible goals can be punishing for the body and the psyche, and resulting disappointment with non-achievement has a negative cumulative effect on the person, which adds mental blocks to the obesity problem as well.
Love yourself
Another important top weight loss tip is to love oneself. It may sound simple, but underneath this seemingly plain statement is a complex thinking pattern. Weight loss should be for oneself, and not in comparison to someone else. In this way, one will never fall short of expectations, and every kilo shed holds value. Superfluous comparisons will never justify worlds best weightloss, because it will never be good enough!
Weightloss market
The weightloss market is a swelling market with new products thronging the shelves everyday. One has to learn to differentiate between the products that will actually help the weightloss plan, and avoid the quick fixes. However hard one may wish, trusting blindly in the weightloss supplements will not turn them as slim and fit as the models on the product cover!
No weightloss plan is fail-proof
No weightloss plan is fail-proof, as every person is different. Exercise regimens work more for some people, while dieting is easy for others. This is possible by focusing on the positive points, rather than dwelling on the negatives. Statements like i love walking/ exercising/ eating fresh salads! Its easy to shed weight this way! Reinforces the positive attitude, rather than i have to walk/exercise, because i need to lose some weight. If i were slim, i could just drive down.
Dont expect quick results in the first try!
Remember, one can afford to fail it is almost impossible to efficiently shed weight in the first try itself. One has to try out several options to find out what suits the best. It is vital to realize there are no quick fixes and healthy, sustained weightloss is possible only with regular exercise and controlled diets. Believe in the weightloss program you have chosen, and best of all, believe in yourself!
Love yourself
Another important top weight loss tip is to love oneself. It may sound simple, but underneath this seemingly plain statement is a complex thinking pattern. Weight loss should be for oneself, and not in comparison to someone else. In this way, one will never fall short of expectations, and every kilo shed holds value. Superfluous comparisons will never justify worlds best weightloss, because it will never be good enough!
Weightloss market
The weightloss market is a swelling market with new products thronging the shelves everyday. One has to learn to differentiate between the products that will actually help the weightloss plan, and avoid the quick fixes. However hard one may wish, trusting blindly in the weightloss supplements will not turn them as slim and fit as the models on the product cover!
No weightloss plan is fail-proof
No weightloss plan is fail-proof, as every person is different. Exercise regimens work more for some people, while dieting is easy for others. This is possible by focusing on the positive points, rather than dwelling on the negatives. Statements like i love walking/ exercising/ eating fresh salads! Its easy to shed weight this way! Reinforces the positive attitude, rather than i have to walk/exercise, because i need to lose some weight. If i were slim, i could just drive down.
Dont expect quick results in the first try!
Remember, one can afford to fail it is almost impossible to efficiently shed weight in the first try itself. One has to try out several options to find out what suits the best. It is vital to realize there are no quick fixes and healthy, sustained weightloss is possible only with regular exercise and controlled diets. Believe in the weightloss program you have chosen, and best of all, believe in yourself!
Wednesday, 27 March 2013
Energy and Motivation for Success
It takes constant, focused energy and motivation to carry out all of the projects and plans necessary to complete a designated goal, which is why the idea of success can feel intimidating for most people. Here are some barriers and action steps to help you ignite your energy and motivation for success.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
© 2011 Life Is Fabulous. Publication rights granted so long as article and byline are reprinted intact, with all links made live.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
© 2011 Life Is Fabulous. Publication rights granted so long as article and byline are reprinted intact, with all links made live.
Friday, 22 March 2013
Your Behavior Profile for Success
Who we are affects how and why we do what we do. In other words, you have a behavior profile that relates to your ability to achieve success.
Your Behavior Profile
Behavior profiling began in the late 1920’s as a result of psychologist Dr. William Marston’s theory that there are four basic personality types. Over the years, different versions of the same theory developed.
You and I fit into one of four basic personality types, which define the way we interact with other people, the way we go about life, our personal drivers and how we succeed. We often relate better to people who have a similar behavior profile, and find other behavior patterns annoying and maybe even a little intimidating. But more importantly, these behaviors have a major impact on how we progress through life.
After studying numerous models, I took the best of what I learned, combined it with what I learned from working with thousands of people in my workshops, and came up with an easy-to-understand explanation of the four major personality behaviors that are part of the four personality styles.
Two Behaviors Makeup Your Communication Style
Your communication style is determined by other people’s perception of two of your behaviors: how you communicate with people and how you respond to people. Please note that this discussion about your communication style is based on how others see you, not how you see yourself.
How You Communicate With People
Of the four personality styles, two are considered a direct communication style. Direct is described as being assertive. Here are characteristics of someone who would be considered very direct: decisive, quick, and displays lots of energy.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered an indirect communication style. If people see you as less direct, you would be considered not as assertive. Someone who would be perceived as being less direct would appear to have these characteristics: indirect, methodical, and less energetic.
How You Respond to People
Now let’s look at how you respond to people. Of the four personality styles, two are considered people-oriented. Here are characteristics of someone who would be perceived as people-oriented: friendly, expressive, likes being with others.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered task-oriented. If people see you respond less to others, you could be perceived as task-oriented. Someone who would be perceived as task-oriented would appear to have these characteristics: reserved, structured, and prefers working alone.
Two Communication Truths
When we think of communication, we think of talking. Great communicators understand that it is more than that. Which brings up the first communication truth; people only believe what they see. In other words, when you walk into a room full of strangers, you can either appear confident and approachable or tense and unapproachable.
The second communication truth is that you are responsible for people’s perception of you. This means that no matter what is happening inside of you or around you in that moment, you always have the choice to react and act as you wish.
More Information on Personality Profiling
To learn more about behavior profiling, check out Dr. William Marston’s theory of the four basic personality types â€" D for Dominant, I for Influencer, S for Steady and C for Compliant. There is the BEST theory â€" Bold-Expressive-Sympathetic-Technical. Dr. Gary Couture’s version uses bird names â€" Dove, Owl, Peacock and Eagle. These are just a few of the many versions available for you to use.
Action Steps
• Always embrace the essence of who you are. This means: Do not wish to be like anyone else. In other words, if you are outgoing, fun, and love being the center of attention, stay that way. Just remember, in certain environments, you may want to tone it down a bit.
• Love your strengths and strengthen your limitations. This means: Be true to who you are, but, if you realize you are indirect and need to speak up, then consider strengthening your assertiveness skills.
• Learn how to flex. This means: If you are in a meeting and you are asked to give your opinion, speak up. You might be indirect by nature, but you can choose to behave differently. I am not recommending that you attempt to adjust your communication style to everyone you speak to in every situation. What I am suggesting is that you be aware of the fact your communication style can affect how people perceive you. You can simply choose to flex when you need to.
Your Behavior Profile
Behavior profiling began in the late 1920’s as a result of psychologist Dr. William Marston’s theory that there are four basic personality types. Over the years, different versions of the same theory developed.
You and I fit into one of four basic personality types, which define the way we interact with other people, the way we go about life, our personal drivers and how we succeed. We often relate better to people who have a similar behavior profile, and find other behavior patterns annoying and maybe even a little intimidating. But more importantly, these behaviors have a major impact on how we progress through life.
After studying numerous models, I took the best of what I learned, combined it with what I learned from working with thousands of people in my workshops, and came up with an easy-to-understand explanation of the four major personality behaviors that are part of the four personality styles.
Two Behaviors Makeup Your Communication Style
Your communication style is determined by other people’s perception of two of your behaviors: how you communicate with people and how you respond to people. Please note that this discussion about your communication style is based on how others see you, not how you see yourself.
How You Communicate With People
Of the four personality styles, two are considered a direct communication style. Direct is described as being assertive. Here are characteristics of someone who would be considered very direct: decisive, quick, and displays lots of energy.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered an indirect communication style. If people see you as less direct, you would be considered not as assertive. Someone who would be perceived as being less direct would appear to have these characteristics: indirect, methodical, and less energetic.
How You Respond to People
Now let’s look at how you respond to people. Of the four personality styles, two are considered people-oriented. Here are characteristics of someone who would be perceived as people-oriented: friendly, expressive, likes being with others.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered task-oriented. If people see you respond less to others, you could be perceived as task-oriented. Someone who would be perceived as task-oriented would appear to have these characteristics: reserved, structured, and prefers working alone.
Two Communication Truths
When we think of communication, we think of talking. Great communicators understand that it is more than that. Which brings up the first communication truth; people only believe what they see. In other words, when you walk into a room full of strangers, you can either appear confident and approachable or tense and unapproachable.
The second communication truth is that you are responsible for people’s perception of you. This means that no matter what is happening inside of you or around you in that moment, you always have the choice to react and act as you wish.
More Information on Personality Profiling
To learn more about behavior profiling, check out Dr. William Marston’s theory of the four basic personality types â€" D for Dominant, I for Influencer, S for Steady and C for Compliant. There is the BEST theory â€" Bold-Expressive-Sympathetic-Technical. Dr. Gary Couture’s version uses bird names â€" Dove, Owl, Peacock and Eagle. These are just a few of the many versions available for you to use.
Action Steps
• Always embrace the essence of who you are. This means: Do not wish to be like anyone else. In other words, if you are outgoing, fun, and love being the center of attention, stay that way. Just remember, in certain environments, you may want to tone it down a bit.
• Love your strengths and strengthen your limitations. This means: Be true to who you are, but, if you realize you are indirect and need to speak up, then consider strengthening your assertiveness skills.
• Learn how to flex. This means: If you are in a meeting and you are asked to give your opinion, speak up. You might be indirect by nature, but you can choose to behave differently. I am not recommending that you attempt to adjust your communication style to everyone you speak to in every situation. What I am suggesting is that you be aware of the fact your communication style can affect how people perceive you. You can simply choose to flex when you need to.
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