Reaching for success is never going to be easy. Have you noticed how often we hear about someone being successful and the media will describe them as suddenly successful - an overnight success. The people concerned might say something like, "It's only taken me 20 years to become an overnight success". When we read their story we usually find they had many set backs and made many mistakes. But they stayed determined to succeed. You will only succeed when you find ways to increase your determination when things get tough.
Decide what you want
One of Stephen Covey's "Seven Habits" is to begin with the end in mind. Decide exactly how you want to finish and exactly what you wish your life to be like when you reach your objective. Whether you have a business or personal ambition, having a clear picture of what you want will help increase your determination when you encounter set backs. It will also determine your actions and how you are going to live your life. The more you remind yourself of what you want and see yourself as having achieved it, the more you will increase your determination.
Decide what you have to do
Reaching for success means there are certain things you will have to do and some will be more important than others. Concentrate on doing the most important tasks first. As you are faced with day-to-day tasks, many will seem to need your immediate attention. That's why you need to keep reviewing your priorities to make sure you are not spending energy in the wrong direction. Get into the practice of working on the most important tasks first. In other words, prioritize your actions so you will be spending your time and energy moving towards your final goal.
Take action
You and you alone will make success possible. You have to take full responsibility for your actions and for the results. You cannot depend on others because many will let you down. Anyway, they are busy reaching for success themselves. Take the actions necessary to get what you want. There is not substitute for taking action. Decide what you need to do now and then do it.
It's not by chance Nike uses the now famous "Just Do it" slogan. Is there anything else that could better define the essence of sporting endeavor? It also defines the essence of life's endeavors. Taking action will increase your determination.
Reaching for success is not for wimps. It sets challenges we would sometimes rather avoid and it will test our resolve. Most of us are not highly driven all of the time. It is natural to become distracted or disheartened or tired of making a constant effort. But if you have a clear picture of the end in mind, focus on the most important actions you must take and follow through with positive action, you will increase your determination to achieve the life you want.
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Sunday 9 June 2013
Sunday 12 May 2013
Motivation is the fuel not the destination
Motivation, motivation what is motivation! Many people think they know what motivation is, but do they? A little research will show you that the dictionary definition of motivation is "the psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal; the reason for the action; that which gives purpose and direction to behaviour". Ask people to define motivation, very few will give such a concise response. This is because at some level, motivation is intrinsically involved with every aspect of our lives. We have to have a certain level of motivation to achieve anything from the simplest tasks such as getting out of bed or going shopping, through to life goals such as having a successful career. Unfortunately, most people see motivation, as part of the destination rather than the fuel that is needed to get us to reach our chosen destination.
Not understanding what motivation is usually leads to disappointment in life either on a spiritual or materialistic level. One of the most common areas where the lack of a clear definition of what motivation is occurs in the area of goal setting. We all know and understand the concept of setting goals and working towards them to achieve what we want in life, but if you speak to any number of people about setting and achieving goals, they will tell you that their goals motivate them to achieve what they really want out of life. This fundamental confusion over what motivation is often leads to people not achieving their goals and full potential, in fact it often leads to greater de-motivation, as after each setback the belief in the goal becomes less strong leading to a perceived lower level of motivation to achieve the goal. It becomes a vicious circle. It is a situation that many of us have faced and the difficulties that this kind of position brings. It takes a long time for us to realise that goals and motivation are not the same and we should not treat them as such.
When you set your goals you're laying out the route and the destination you want to get to. When we are setting goals we are telling ourselves what do we want in life and how are we going to get there. What steps do we need to take? A list of goals will always allow us to move forward and give us a purpose in life, but they are not motivation in themselves.
Motivation is the fuel that inspires us to reach are goals and desires and allows us to keep getting up and moving towards our goals whenever we have a setback. Getting motivated and staying motivated gives us the energy we need to reach our goals in the shortest time possible. Motivation is required to meet our goals and goals are required to give purpose to our motivation. The two work hand in hand. If you get the motivation right you can achieve anything. So think seriously about how to get motivated and stay motivated so you can achieve whatever you desire.
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Not understanding what motivation is usually leads to disappointment in life either on a spiritual or materialistic level. One of the most common areas where the lack of a clear definition of what motivation is occurs in the area of goal setting. We all know and understand the concept of setting goals and working towards them to achieve what we want in life, but if you speak to any number of people about setting and achieving goals, they will tell you that their goals motivate them to achieve what they really want out of life. This fundamental confusion over what motivation is often leads to people not achieving their goals and full potential, in fact it often leads to greater de-motivation, as after each setback the belief in the goal becomes less strong leading to a perceived lower level of motivation to achieve the goal. It becomes a vicious circle. It is a situation that many of us have faced and the difficulties that this kind of position brings. It takes a long time for us to realise that goals and motivation are not the same and we should not treat them as such.
When you set your goals you're laying out the route and the destination you want to get to. When we are setting goals we are telling ourselves what do we want in life and how are we going to get there. What steps do we need to take? A list of goals will always allow us to move forward and give us a purpose in life, but they are not motivation in themselves.
Motivation is the fuel that inspires us to reach are goals and desires and allows us to keep getting up and moving towards our goals whenever we have a setback. Getting motivated and staying motivated gives us the energy we need to reach our goals in the shortest time possible. Motivation is required to meet our goals and goals are required to give purpose to our motivation. The two work hand in hand. If you get the motivation right you can achieve anything. So think seriously about how to get motivated and stay motivated so you can achieve whatever you desire.
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Sunday 28 April 2013
How to Feel More Motivated: Get Things Done!
If I have a bunch of things to do during the day, all those tasks get jumbled around in my head and I don't know where to start. Then the feeling of being overwhelmed comes along and it gets hard to even do anything at all.That's why it's so important to keep in mind where you want to go so you keep your goals on track. I've put together some tips to help you get your day organized and get you excited to accomplish your goals.
-The first thing that helps me is to make a list of what I want to get done that day. I always have to make this list or nothing will happen. So write down everything that you want to get done that day. Start with the things you'd like to get done first. Then write out everything and plan your day. Write your list in the morning or even better; get that list done the night before.
-Here's a great way to get you motivated: have some awesomequotes and affirmations handy that get you pumped. A great way to do this is to have a poster board with everything on it that motivates you. Here are some examples of what is on my board:
I inspire people.
I work from anywhere in the world.
What you think is what you get.
"Those who follow the part of themselves that is great will become great. Those that follow the part that is small, will become small." -Mencius
-Make a "Passion To-Do List" that has everything on it that you're passionate about and make sure you do at least one thing from it a day. It's important to have a way to release so your mind is clear and you canfocus . When you're focused you will get a lot more accomplished. Your list can include anything that you're passionate about. What do you love to do? What makes you happy? What do you do to free yourself from stress ? What do you like to learn about?
-Without this next one I'd have way more freak-outs during the day. If you feel frustrated with the task you're doing or the energy just doesn't feel right, then walk away. You'll get way more done if you get away from it and get the good energy flowing again. Go for a walk. Turn the music up and do a silly dance. If it's a nice day, go stand in the sun. Take some deep breaths and stretch. Then once you feel more centered come back to it. You'll be amazed at how much more clearly you can think. When your mind is clear, that's when the awesome ideas come.
There's a great feeling that comes with getting your to-do list done. You will feel accomplished and that will give you more energy to do whatever else you're aspiring to do. Then before you know it, you'll be a pro! You'll feel excited and you can look back on everything that you've accomplished
-The first thing that helps me is to make a list of what I want to get done that day. I always have to make this list or nothing will happen. So write down everything that you want to get done that day. Start with the things you'd like to get done first. Then write out everything and plan your day. Write your list in the morning or even better; get that list done the night before.
-Here's a great way to get you motivated: have some awesome
I inspire people.
I work from anywhere in the world.
What you think is what you get.
"Those who follow the part of themselves that is great will become great. Those that follow the part that is small, will become small." -Mencius
-Make a "Passion To-Do List" that has everything on it that you're passionate about and make sure you do at least one thing from it a day. It's important to have a way to release so your mind is clear and you can
-Without this next one I'd have way more freak-outs during the day. If you feel frustrated with the task you're doing or the energy just doesn't feel right, then walk away. You'll get way more done if you get away from it and get the good energy flowing again. Go for a walk. Turn the music up and do a silly dance. If it's a nice day, go stand in the sun. Take some deep breaths and stretch. Then once you feel more centered come back to it. You'll be amazed at how much more clearly you can think. When your mind is clear, that's when the awesome ideas come.
There's a great feeling that comes with getting your to-do list done. You will feel accomplished and that will give you more energy to do whatever else you're aspiring to do. Then before you know it, you'll be a pro! You'll feel excited and you can look back on everything that you've accomplished
Sunday 21 April 2013
Energy and Motivation for Success
It takes constant, focused energy and motivation to carry out all of the projects and plans necessary to complete a designated goal, which is why the idea of success can feel intimidating for most people. Here are some barriers and action steps to help you ignite your energy and motivation for success.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
Monday 8 April 2013
Desperate For Success? Find Out The 100 Day Challenge - An Action Plan That Breed Success
Success does not always look the same. It comes in many forms, and what is success to one may not mean anything to someone else. In spite of a different look, there are at least two elements of success that are identical for everyone who experiences it. First, success is a goal that is worthy of pursuit. And second, and success takes hard work.
You have heard it said, "Where there is a will, there is a way." This is true of success. There is a way, no matter what your current circumstances are. There have been tons of books, articles, and motivational programs produced to show you the way to success. This article is simple, yet powerful. It will point out 5 tips that will help you find your way toward success.
1. Start by focusing on a goal you like
This is helpful especially if you are just starting your journey toward success. You can increase your chances for success exponentially if you have a passion for what you are working toward. You can begin by brainstorming with a close friend or spouse. Make sure it is someone who shares your desire for success. List all your skills and interests on a sheet of paper or a computer document. Don't leave anything out, even if it does not seem relevant. For instance, if you are good at making animal balloons, write it down... you never know where the inspiration will come from. Again, make sure you list everything. Some of the greatest ideas come from brainstorming sessions where there are no rules. Then go through your list and narrow it down to the one or two things you are most passionate about that can become a career choice.
2. Develop a Plan
The one thing most people fail to do is write down their plan. If you don't have a plan, how will you know where to go or what to do? Architects would not get far if they just "told" someone about their idea for a building. Neither should you begin your journey to success without a roadmap of how to get there.
Even if the written plan is not complete, write it down. You can fill in the details as the plan develops. It needs to have goals for each step of the process, including dates for completion. It should also include methods and materials that will help you to complete each step. If you know people who can help you along the way, write down their names. Make sure your plan is complete. Leave nothing to the imagination at this point.
Oh, and don't forget to keep a calendar and journal of your journey. It will be very helpful to see how you moved forward. Don't skip any days, even if you didn't do anything that day. It will be a reminder that tomorrow you need to get back on track.
3. Don't let your circumstances change you, Change your circumstances
"If you keep on doing what your doing, you will keep on getting what you got." This quote from Zig Ziglar makes sense.
It's crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing over and over the same way and expect different results. It's your choice. You can plod along through life letting your circumstances beat you up every day, or you can take action to change those circumstances. Granted, sometimes this does not look like it is the case, but you always have a choice, even if it is just the way you think about a situation. Your thoughts are powerful, and they can change the way you see yourself, thus changing your life. Don't allow those circumstances to keep you where you are. It does not have to be something huge, but you have the power to change something. Taking this positive step will eventually lead to your success. Don't ever forget that you have the same power in you as anyone else. Everyone starts out in life with nothing. You have a clean slate every day. It is your choice. What will be written on your slate today?
4. Attitude Is More Important Than Aptitude - Make Sure Yours Is Unstoppable
There is no one that can keep you from having a great attitude except you. You may not have the greatest education or the most resources, but you have control over your attitude. A positive attitude will literally open doors for you. It is the number one element of successful people.
5. Develop a Passion for Education
You don't have to be a student in school to continue your education. Every day should be a learning experience, even if you learn something that did not work. Most people know that Thomas Edison failed many times when trying to invent a light bulb. Yet when questioned about his failures, he straightened out that reporter with a statement that you should take to heart. He simply said, "I did not fail 10,000 times, I merely discovered 10,000 ways that did not work." Each of us should have a similar attitude. Learning from your mistakes is a valuable kind of education. Don't dismiss it as failure. Passion for education is still another stepping stone in the path of success.
Success seems to elude many of us while it seems to be so easy for others. What do you want in life? Is it success? If so, make a decision to go get it.
The 100-Day Challenge breeds successful individuals in five ways:
1. Provide focus on something you are passionate about
2. Develop a plan
3. Show you how important it is to take control of circumstances
4. Develop an attitude for success
5. Provides education that breeds success.
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You have heard it said, "Where there is a will, there is a way." This is true of success. There is a way, no matter what your current circumstances are. There have been tons of books, articles, and motivational programs produced to show you the way to success. This article is simple, yet powerful. It will point out 5 tips that will help you find your way toward success.
1. Start by focusing on a goal you like
This is helpful especially if you are just starting your journey toward success. You can increase your chances for success exponentially if you have a passion for what you are working toward. You can begin by brainstorming with a close friend or spouse. Make sure it is someone who shares your desire for success. List all your skills and interests on a sheet of paper or a computer document. Don't leave anything out, even if it does not seem relevant. For instance, if you are good at making animal balloons, write it down... you never know where the inspiration will come from. Again, make sure you list everything. Some of the greatest ideas come from brainstorming sessions where there are no rules. Then go through your list and narrow it down to the one or two things you are most passionate about that can become a career choice.
2. Develop a Plan
The one thing most people fail to do is write down their plan. If you don't have a plan, how will you know where to go or what to do? Architects would not get far if they just "told" someone about their idea for a building. Neither should you begin your journey to success without a roadmap of how to get there.
Even if the written plan is not complete, write it down. You can fill in the details as the plan develops. It needs to have goals for each step of the process, including dates for completion. It should also include methods and materials that will help you to complete each step. If you know people who can help you along the way, write down their names. Make sure your plan is complete. Leave nothing to the imagination at this point.
Oh, and don't forget to keep a calendar and journal of your journey. It will be very helpful to see how you moved forward. Don't skip any days, even if you didn't do anything that day. It will be a reminder that tomorrow you need to get back on track.
3. Don't let your circumstances change you, Change your circumstances
"If you keep on doing what your doing, you will keep on getting what you got." This quote from Zig Ziglar makes sense.
It's crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing over and over the same way and expect different results. It's your choice. You can plod along through life letting your circumstances beat you up every day, or you can take action to change those circumstances. Granted, sometimes this does not look like it is the case, but you always have a choice, even if it is just the way you think about a situation. Your thoughts are powerful, and they can change the way you see yourself, thus changing your life. Don't allow those circumstances to keep you where you are. It does not have to be something huge, but you have the power to change something. Taking this positive step will eventually lead to your success. Don't ever forget that you have the same power in you as anyone else. Everyone starts out in life with nothing. You have a clean slate every day. It is your choice. What will be written on your slate today?
4. Attitude Is More Important Than Aptitude - Make Sure Yours Is Unstoppable
There is no one that can keep you from having a great attitude except you. You may not have the greatest education or the most resources, but you have control over your attitude. A positive attitude will literally open doors for you. It is the number one element of successful people.
5. Develop a Passion for Education
You don't have to be a student in school to continue your education. Every day should be a learning experience, even if you learn something that did not work. Most people know that Thomas Edison failed many times when trying to invent a light bulb. Yet when questioned about his failures, he straightened out that reporter with a statement that you should take to heart. He simply said, "I did not fail 10,000 times, I merely discovered 10,000 ways that did not work." Each of us should have a similar attitude. Learning from your mistakes is a valuable kind of education. Don't dismiss it as failure. Passion for education is still another stepping stone in the path of success.
Success seems to elude many of us while it seems to be so easy for others. What do you want in life? Is it success? If so, make a decision to go get it.
The 100-Day Challenge breeds successful individuals in five ways:
1. Provide focus on something you are passionate about
2. Develop a plan
3. Show you how important it is to take control of circumstances
4. Develop an attitude for success
5. Provides education that breeds success.
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Saturday 30 March 2013
Top Weightloss Tip Stay Motivated!
While motivation levels vary from day to day, and even hour to hour, the initial force must be strong enough for the person to exercise or stick to a diet for top weightloss results. It is natural to be motivated at the beginning of any program, but to keep up with the restraint can be extremely demanding. Top weightloss stories of people recount of how they have achieved the goal, and all of them have one thing in common, deep seated commitment and perseverance. Best weight loss tips include setting reasonable goals. Setting impossible goals can be punishing for the body and the psyche, and resulting disappointment with non-achievement has a negative cumulative effect on the person, which adds mental blocks to the obesity problem as well.
Love yourself
Another important top weight loss tip is to love oneself. It may sound simple, but underneath this seemingly plain statement is a complex thinking pattern. Weight loss should be for oneself, and not in comparison to someone else. In this way, one will never fall short of expectations, and every kilo shed holds value. Superfluous comparisons will never justify worlds best weightloss, because it will never be good enough!
Weightloss market
The weightloss market is a swelling market with new products thronging the shelves everyday. One has to learn to differentiate between the products that will actually help the weightloss plan, and avoid the quick fixes. However hard one may wish, trusting blindly in the weightloss supplements will not turn them as slim and fit as the models on the product cover!
No weightloss plan is fail-proof
No weightloss plan is fail-proof, as every person is different. Exercise regimens work more for some people, while dieting is easy for others. This is possible by focusing on the positive points, rather than dwelling on the negatives. Statements like i love walking/ exercising/ eating fresh salads! Its easy to shed weight this way! Reinforces the positive attitude, rather than i have to walk/exercise, because i need to lose some weight. If i were slim, i could just drive down.
Dont expect quick results in the first try!
Remember, one can afford to fail it is almost impossible to efficiently shed weight in the first try itself. One has to try out several options to find out what suits the best. It is vital to realize there are no quick fixes and healthy, sustained weightloss is possible only with regular exercise and controlled diets. Believe in the weightloss program you have chosen, and best of all, believe in yourself!
Love yourself
Another important top weight loss tip is to love oneself. It may sound simple, but underneath this seemingly plain statement is a complex thinking pattern. Weight loss should be for oneself, and not in comparison to someone else. In this way, one will never fall short of expectations, and every kilo shed holds value. Superfluous comparisons will never justify worlds best weightloss, because it will never be good enough!
Weightloss market
The weightloss market is a swelling market with new products thronging the shelves everyday. One has to learn to differentiate between the products that will actually help the weightloss plan, and avoid the quick fixes. However hard one may wish, trusting blindly in the weightloss supplements will not turn them as slim and fit as the models on the product cover!
No weightloss plan is fail-proof
No weightloss plan is fail-proof, as every person is different. Exercise regimens work more for some people, while dieting is easy for others. This is possible by focusing on the positive points, rather than dwelling on the negatives. Statements like i love walking/ exercising/ eating fresh salads! Its easy to shed weight this way! Reinforces the positive attitude, rather than i have to walk/exercise, because i need to lose some weight. If i were slim, i could just drive down.
Dont expect quick results in the first try!
Remember, one can afford to fail it is almost impossible to efficiently shed weight in the first try itself. One has to try out several options to find out what suits the best. It is vital to realize there are no quick fixes and healthy, sustained weightloss is possible only with regular exercise and controlled diets. Believe in the weightloss program you have chosen, and best of all, believe in yourself!
Wednesday 27 March 2013
Energy and Motivation for Success
It takes constant, focused energy and motivation to carry out all of the projects and plans necessary to complete a designated goal, which is why the idea of success can feel intimidating for most people. Here are some barriers and action steps to help you ignite your energy and motivation for success.
Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
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Barriers to Success
Realize that you might be dealing with success barriers like procrastination, perfectionism, and fear. These barriers have the power to keep you stuck and unable to move forward on your goals.
The Procrastination Barrier
For some, procrastination is a problem because they might be dealing with one of two possible inner conflicts: the need to sabotage their success, or the need to avoid imagined failure.
The Perfectionism Barrier
There are multiple reasons for perfectionism. For some adults, being raised in homes where they experienced high doses of disapproval, ridicule, or rejection created the need to be perfect. Another reason might be because of their innate hardwiring; meaning, they are highly methodical and factual and perfectionism is part of who they are.
The Fear Barrier
Fear has the power to stop you in your tracks. Fear can keep you locked in a cycle of failure by forcing you to continually relive your negative experiences. Worst of all, fear can keep you from living the life you were meant to live.
Action Steps
Here are some ideas to overcome the three success barriers and move forward to complete your goals and become successful.
• First, you know you are procrastinating when you feel like something has got you by the throat and you can’t move forwardâ€"you are stuck. Unfortunately, the best advice is to do the very thing you are putting off. And, do it now. Take a moment to decide if it needs to be done at all and if not, decide not to do it. Remove all escape routes. Finding a partner to check in with can help as well.
• Second, when you are perfectionist, tell yourself to go right, go left, but pick something. In other words, get in the boat that is heading toward your future. Strive to be productive not perfect. If your innate personality is to be a perfectionist, accept that about yourself but tell yourself to complete something and revise it later if need be.
• Third, think of fear like a machine that operates outside of you. Imagine this big, rolling machine rotating in a circular motion that yells, “Feed me, feed me, feed me!†Don’t feed into the fear machine; starve it by taking action. Focus your mind on what needs to be done. As you begin to take action, there’s a good chance you will notice that your stomach feels weird. That is your inner critic trying to get you to stop and feel the fear. Don’t give in; keep doing what you need to do. Trust me, eventually, your stomach will return to normal and you will complete your project.
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Friday 22 March 2013
Your Behavior Profile for Success
Who we are affects how and why we do what we do. In other words, you have a behavior profile that relates to your ability to achieve success.
Your Behavior Profile
Behavior profiling began in the late 1920’s as a result of psychologist Dr. William Marston’s theory that there are four basic personality types. Over the years, different versions of the same theory developed.
You and I fit into one of four basic personality types, which define the way we interact with other people, the way we go about life, our personal drivers and how we succeed. We often relate better to people who have a similar behavior profile, and find other behavior patterns annoying and maybe even a little intimidating. But more importantly, these behaviors have a major impact on how we progress through life.
After studying numerous models, I took the best of what I learned, combined it with what I learned from working with thousands of people in my workshops, and came up with an easy-to-understand explanation of the four major personality behaviors that are part of the four personality styles.
Two Behaviors Makeup Your Communication Style
Your communication style is determined by other people’s perception of two of your behaviors: how you communicate with people and how you respond to people. Please note that this discussion about your communication style is based on how others see you, not how you see yourself.
How You Communicate With People
Of the four personality styles, two are considered a direct communication style. Direct is described as being assertive. Here are characteristics of someone who would be considered very direct: decisive, quick, and displays lots of energy.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered an indirect communication style. If people see you as less direct, you would be considered not as assertive. Someone who would be perceived as being less direct would appear to have these characteristics: indirect, methodical, and less energetic.
How You Respond to People
Now let’s look at how you respond to people. Of the four personality styles, two are considered people-oriented. Here are characteristics of someone who would be perceived as people-oriented: friendly, expressive, likes being with others.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered task-oriented. If people see you respond less to others, you could be perceived as task-oriented. Someone who would be perceived as task-oriented would appear to have these characteristics: reserved, structured, and prefers working alone.
Two Communication Truths
When we think of communication, we think of talking. Great communicators understand that it is more than that. Which brings up the first communication truth; people only believe what they see. In other words, when you walk into a room full of strangers, you can either appear confident and approachable or tense and unapproachable.
The second communication truth is that you are responsible for people’s perception of you. This means that no matter what is happening inside of you or around you in that moment, you always have the choice to react and act as you wish.
More Information on Personality Profiling
To learn more about behavior profiling, check out Dr. William Marston’s theory of the four basic personality types â€" D for Dominant, I for Influencer, S for Steady and C for Compliant. There is the BEST theory â€" Bold-Expressive-Sympathetic-Technical. Dr. Gary Couture’s version uses bird names â€" Dove, Owl, Peacock and Eagle. These are just a few of the many versions available for you to use.
Action Steps
• Always embrace the essence of who you are. This means: Do not wish to be like anyone else. In other words, if you are outgoing, fun, and love being the center of attention, stay that way. Just remember, in certain environments, you may want to tone it down a bit.
• Love your strengths and strengthen your limitations. This means: Be true to who you are, but, if you realize you are indirect and need to speak up, then consider strengthening your assertiveness skills.
• Learn how to flex. This means: If you are in a meeting and you are asked to give your opinion, speak up. You might be indirect by nature, but you can choose to behave differently. I am not recommending that you attempt to adjust your communication style to everyone you speak to in every situation. What I am suggesting is that you be aware of the fact your communication style can affect how people perceive you. You can simply choose to flex when you need to.
Your Behavior Profile
Behavior profiling began in the late 1920’s as a result of psychologist Dr. William Marston’s theory that there are four basic personality types. Over the years, different versions of the same theory developed.
You and I fit into one of four basic personality types, which define the way we interact with other people, the way we go about life, our personal drivers and how we succeed. We often relate better to people who have a similar behavior profile, and find other behavior patterns annoying and maybe even a little intimidating. But more importantly, these behaviors have a major impact on how we progress through life.
After studying numerous models, I took the best of what I learned, combined it with what I learned from working with thousands of people in my workshops, and came up with an easy-to-understand explanation of the four major personality behaviors that are part of the four personality styles.
Two Behaviors Makeup Your Communication Style
Your communication style is determined by other people’s perception of two of your behaviors: how you communicate with people and how you respond to people. Please note that this discussion about your communication style is based on how others see you, not how you see yourself.
How You Communicate With People
Of the four personality styles, two are considered a direct communication style. Direct is described as being assertive. Here are characteristics of someone who would be considered very direct: decisive, quick, and displays lots of energy.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered an indirect communication style. If people see you as less direct, you would be considered not as assertive. Someone who would be perceived as being less direct would appear to have these characteristics: indirect, methodical, and less energetic.
How You Respond to People
Now let’s look at how you respond to people. Of the four personality styles, two are considered people-oriented. Here are characteristics of someone who would be perceived as people-oriented: friendly, expressive, likes being with others.
Of the four personality styles, two are considered task-oriented. If people see you respond less to others, you could be perceived as task-oriented. Someone who would be perceived as task-oriented would appear to have these characteristics: reserved, structured, and prefers working alone.
Two Communication Truths
When we think of communication, we think of talking. Great communicators understand that it is more than that. Which brings up the first communication truth; people only believe what they see. In other words, when you walk into a room full of strangers, you can either appear confident and approachable or tense and unapproachable.
The second communication truth is that you are responsible for people’s perception of you. This means that no matter what is happening inside of you or around you in that moment, you always have the choice to react and act as you wish.
More Information on Personality Profiling
To learn more about behavior profiling, check out Dr. William Marston’s theory of the four basic personality types â€" D for Dominant, I for Influencer, S for Steady and C for Compliant. There is the BEST theory â€" Bold-Expressive-Sympathetic-Technical. Dr. Gary Couture’s version uses bird names â€" Dove, Owl, Peacock and Eagle. These are just a few of the many versions available for you to use.
Action Steps
• Always embrace the essence of who you are. This means: Do not wish to be like anyone else. In other words, if you are outgoing, fun, and love being the center of attention, stay that way. Just remember, in certain environments, you may want to tone it down a bit.
• Love your strengths and strengthen your limitations. This means: Be true to who you are, but, if you realize you are indirect and need to speak up, then consider strengthening your assertiveness skills.
• Learn how to flex. This means: If you are in a meeting and you are asked to give your opinion, speak up. You might be indirect by nature, but you can choose to behave differently. I am not recommending that you attempt to adjust your communication style to everyone you speak to in every situation. What I am suggesting is that you be aware of the fact your communication style can affect how people perceive you. You can simply choose to flex when you need to.
Sunday 17 March 2013
Prepare for Success and Manage Failure
There are two things many people don’t seem quite prepared for: success and failure. When failure happens, it throws a big wrench into plans. People get completely rattled, even to the point of giving up. Dreams get derailed, and confidence drops. When success is achieved, people don’t always know how to handle it. Unprepared, they squander the opportunity.
I’ve experienced challenges with both success and failure. In Another Day Without A Cage, I share a story about spending two years, just about every minute, studying and helping a hockey team with the aim of being hired as a motivational speaker for them, only to have those dreams shattered abruptly by a coach who refused to let a woman talk to his team. It was a big failure and a huge blow. At that point I could have given up on working with sports teams … but fortunately, I didn’t. I learned a great deal from the experience, and these lessons propelled me to exciting new opportunities. My book also reveals other run-ins I’ve had with failure, a key element that led to my many successes. I grew to learn to first accept, then seize and wholly embrace success.
Now I want to share tips with you so that when success or failure come your way, you’ll be prepared, and you’ll know how to seize one and manage the other. Practice these tips regularly.
To manage failure,
1. Remember that you’re not alone â€" everyone fails at something, at some point, no exceptions.
2. Regard failure as nothing more than a learning tool, because that’s truly what it is.
3. Take the lessons you gained from this failure. Leaving feelings of disappointment or shame behind, boldly move forward with your plans and dreams.
4. Take action to re-align yourself with your goals and get back on track with life.
To prepare for and seize success,
1. Believe with everything you have that you ARE worthy of being successful.
2. View success as a series of stepping stones to the life you want. This will make achieving success much more appealing and desirable to you.
3. Equate success with positives in your life, and take it for what it truly is: a means to less stress, greater peace of mind, career fulfillment, happiness and a life of meaning.
4. Give yourself permission to enjoy any success that comes your way. You really do deserve it!
5. Keep moving forward. Once you’ve succeeded, don’t stop â€" keep going, keep pursuing your life dreams.
About Gail Kasper: Mid-1998, Gail Kasper started her business from a small one-bedroom apartment, in the middle of bankruptcy, with no money in the bank. Today, Gail is one of the nation's leading speakers, author, Top 1% Club Mentor, a television host, advice columnist, Certified Fitness Trainer, Ms. Continental America 2008, and the creator of SAD-Tâ„¢ (Systematic Attitude Development-Techniqueâ„¢). A former Contributing Editor to Success Magazine with the "Ask Gail" column and host of the "Ask Gail" segment on the Comcast morning show, Gail is the author of her self-help autobiography Another Day Without A Cage: My Breakthrough From Self-Imprisonment To Total Empowerment and the self-help parable Unstoppable: 6 Easy Steps To Achieve Your Goals. With national media appearances that include Inside Edition, The Today Show, FOX Business News, and Oprah and Friends, Gail has earned the ranking of an in-demand national media personality who has been the topic of discussion on Regis and Kelly. The current host of the Philadelphia Visitors Channel, she has also made numerous appearances on network affiliates that include ABC, FOX, CW11, Comcast, and CBS, where she co-hosted the Emmy award-winning America's TVJobNetwork.
I’ve experienced challenges with both success and failure. In Another Day Without A Cage, I share a story about spending two years, just about every minute, studying and helping a hockey team with the aim of being hired as a motivational speaker for them, only to have those dreams shattered abruptly by a coach who refused to let a woman talk to his team. It was a big failure and a huge blow. At that point I could have given up on working with sports teams … but fortunately, I didn’t. I learned a great deal from the experience, and these lessons propelled me to exciting new opportunities. My book also reveals other run-ins I’ve had with failure, a key element that led to my many successes. I grew to learn to first accept, then seize and wholly embrace success.
Now I want to share tips with you so that when success or failure come your way, you’ll be prepared, and you’ll know how to seize one and manage the other. Practice these tips regularly.
To manage failure,
1. Remember that you’re not alone â€" everyone fails at something, at some point, no exceptions.
2. Regard failure as nothing more than a learning tool, because that’s truly what it is.
3. Take the lessons you gained from this failure. Leaving feelings of disappointment or shame behind, boldly move forward with your plans and dreams.
4. Take action to re-align yourself with your goals and get back on track with life.
To prepare for and seize success,
1. Believe with everything you have that you ARE worthy of being successful.
2. View success as a series of stepping stones to the life you want. This will make achieving success much more appealing and desirable to you.
3. Equate success with positives in your life, and take it for what it truly is: a means to less stress, greater peace of mind, career fulfillment, happiness and a life of meaning.
4. Give yourself permission to enjoy any success that comes your way. You really do deserve it!
5. Keep moving forward. Once you’ve succeeded, don’t stop â€" keep going, keep pursuing your life dreams.
About Gail Kasper: Mid-1998, Gail Kasper started her business from a small one-bedroom apartment, in the middle of bankruptcy, with no money in the bank. Today, Gail is one of the nation's leading speakers, author, Top 1% Club Mentor, a television host, advice columnist, Certified Fitness Trainer, Ms. Continental America 2008, and the creator of SAD-Tâ„¢ (Systematic Attitude Development-Techniqueâ„¢). A former Contributing Editor to Success Magazine with the "Ask Gail" column and host of the "Ask Gail" segment on the Comcast morning show, Gail is the author of her self-help autobiography Another Day Without A Cage: My Breakthrough From Self-Imprisonment To Total Empowerment and the self-help parable Unstoppable: 6 Easy Steps To Achieve Your Goals. With national media appearances that include Inside Edition, The Today Show, FOX Business News, and Oprah and Friends, Gail has earned the ranking of an in-demand national media personality who has been the topic of discussion on Regis and Kelly. The current host of the Philadelphia Visitors Channel, she has also made numerous appearances on network affiliates that include ABC, FOX, CW11, Comcast, and CBS, where she co-hosted the Emmy award-winning America's TVJobNetwork.
Thursday 14 March 2013
Recipe For Success - How Are You Going To Reach Your Dreams?
Life can be difficult and in everyday daunting tasks in the reach for your goals, you may be looking for some help that drops down uncertainty about your future. Read on to find out the six fundamental ingredients of your recipe for success. And see how the most important one, the seventh, is already at your hands.
1) Believe in Yourself
The higher the success you are aiming at, the harder will be the path to it. Many people already left in their own path to that very kind of success. Your path will be different from theirs if you'll believe in yourself.
Remember that failure is common and is just a signal that you are going to do better next time. So remember this and don't let that bring you down.
Understand your strengths and recognise your weakness, then exploit both: to make a difference when you have the opportunity, and to ask for help when times are going tough.
2) Be Realistic About The Results You Want
Being realistic with the results you want will increase your success likelihood. The same has to be with the kind of things you are going to do to reach your dreams. Don't make things too hard at the start, or will be then harder for you persisting when time will come.
3) Identify Your Goals
Now that your dreams have been mitigated with a realistic approach, it's time to set your goals. In fact without a direction you'll go everywhere and anywhere. The most important ingredient of your recipe for success is to identify your goals. There are three things to do when you have identified each goal: write it down, set a plan for it and set a deadline. Remember: be realistic, and things will be easier.
4) Develop a Success Strategy
If you just apply the first three steps of your recipe to success and then get moving, you'll get started in your pathway to reach your goals.
Your path won't be easy, but being realistic will get you started. Keep persisting and you'll reach your goal. To make this easier, you have to develop a Success Strategy that will keep you on road. You can discover The Five Pillars of Every Great Success Strategy at my website.
5) Go and Celebrate
Finally you have to work hard and persist along your plan. When a roadblock comes, find a different way to reach the same results. Remember: persistence in your goals, but change your actions if needed. Celebrating your victories will remind also yourself of the great job you are doing and that little fun will maintain that motivation that is needed to keep along until you reach your goal.
6) Increase Your Ability Along Your Way
Improving is what will ensure increasing performance along the way. This will increase your ability to cope with the challenges you are going to face and make things easier and easier. This will made every challenge a learning experience and, finally, will increase your speed and power.
There are many effective programs available on the net to help you doing this. You can program yourself for success and create positive motivation in life for work, health and success on autopilot by just listening your way to success and abundance with the Quantum Mind Power program.
7) The Seventh Ingredient
There is a seventh ingredient in the recipe for success and this is happiness. It's different than the other ones as it's underlying everything you do and you think. Happiness is the great motivator and its expectancy makes us run towards our goals.
Well the good news is that happiness is really a condition of mind. And as every act of mind, you can create it at will. Happiness is already inside you and you have just to awake it. This is why no goal will make you really happy, unless you already are. If you won't unlock the happiness inside you, no success will satisfy you. To find your happiness, just keep asking yourself what is making you happy right now in your life. Your mind will focus on it and will start creating it.
Finally...
Start your quest and remember to look for the happiness inside you. Develop your Success Strategy; increase your ability with appropriate tools and the recipe for success will support you in reaching your dreams. Do it now
1) Believe in Yourself
The higher the success you are aiming at, the harder will be the path to it. Many people already left in their own path to that very kind of success. Your path will be different from theirs if you'll believe in yourself.
Remember that failure is common and is just a signal that you are going to do better next time. So remember this and don't let that bring you down.
Understand your strengths and recognise your weakness, then exploit both: to make a difference when you have the opportunity, and to ask for help when times are going tough.
2) Be Realistic About The Results You Want
Being realistic with the results you want will increase your success likelihood. The same has to be with the kind of things you are going to do to reach your dreams. Don't make things too hard at the start, or will be then harder for you persisting when time will come.
3) Identify Your Goals
Now that your dreams have been mitigated with a realistic approach, it's time to set your goals. In fact without a direction you'll go everywhere and anywhere. The most important ingredient of your recipe for success is to identify your goals. There are three things to do when you have identified each goal: write it down, set a plan for it and set a deadline. Remember: be realistic, and things will be easier.
4) Develop a Success Strategy
If you just apply the first three steps of your recipe to success and then get moving, you'll get started in your pathway to reach your goals.
Your path won't be easy, but being realistic will get you started. Keep persisting and you'll reach your goal. To make this easier, you have to develop a Success Strategy that will keep you on road. You can discover The Five Pillars of Every Great Success Strategy at my website.
5) Go and Celebrate
Finally you have to work hard and persist along your plan. When a roadblock comes, find a different way to reach the same results. Remember: persistence in your goals, but change your actions if needed. Celebrating your victories will remind also yourself of the great job you are doing and that little fun will maintain that motivation that is needed to keep along until you reach your goal.
6) Increase Your Ability Along Your Way
Improving is what will ensure increasing performance along the way. This will increase your ability to cope with the challenges you are going to face and make things easier and easier. This will made every challenge a learning experience and, finally, will increase your speed and power.
There are many effective programs available on the net to help you doing this. You can program yourself for success and create positive motivation in life for work, health and success on autopilot by just listening your way to success and abundance with the Quantum Mind Power program.
7) The Seventh Ingredient
There is a seventh ingredient in the recipe for success and this is happiness. It's different than the other ones as it's underlying everything you do and you think. Happiness is the great motivator and its expectancy makes us run towards our goals.
Well the good news is that happiness is really a condition of mind. And as every act of mind, you can create it at will. Happiness is already inside you and you have just to awake it. This is why no goal will make you really happy, unless you already are. If you won't unlock the happiness inside you, no success will satisfy you. To find your happiness, just keep asking yourself what is making you happy right now in your life. Your mind will focus on it and will start creating it.
Finally...
Start your quest and remember to look for the happiness inside you. Develop your Success Strategy; increase your ability with appropriate tools and the recipe for success will support you in reaching your dreams. Do it now
Thursday 7 March 2013
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Monday 4 March 2013
Recipe For Success - How Are You Going To Reach Your Dreams?
Life can be difficult and in everyday daunting tasks in the reach for your goals, you may be looking for some help that drops down uncertainty about your future. Read on to find out the six fundamental ingredients of your recipe for success. And see how the most important one, the seventh, is already at your hands.
1) Believe in Yourself
The higher the success you are aiming at, the harder will be the path to it. Many people already left in their own path to that very kind of success. Your path will be different from theirs if you'll believe in yourself.
Remember that failure is common and is just a signal that you are going to do better next time. So remember this and don't let that bring you down.
Understand your strengths and recognise your weakness, then exploit both: to make a difference when you have the opportunity, and to ask for help when times are going tough.
2) Be Realistic About The Results You Want
Being realistic with the results you want will increase your success likelihood. The same has to be with the kind of things you are going to do to reach your dreams. Don't make things too hard at the start, or will be then harder for you persisting when time will come.
3) Identify Your Goals
Now that your dreams have been mitigated with a realistic approach, it's time to set your goals. In fact without a direction you'll go everywhere and anywhere. The most important ingredient of your recipe for success is to identify your goals. There are three things to do when you have identified each goal: write it down, set a plan for it and set a deadline. Remember: be realistic, and things will be easier.
4) Develop a Success Strategy
If you just apply the first three steps of your recipe to success and then get moving, you'll get started in your pathway to reach your goals.
Your path won't be easy, but being realistic will get you started. Keep persisting and you'll reach your goal. To make this easier, you have to develop a Success Strategy that will keep you on road. You can discover The Five Pillars of Every Great Success Strategy at my website.
5) Go and Celebrate
Finally you have to work hard and persist along your plan. When a roadblock comes, find a different way to reach the same results. Remember: persistence in your goals, but change your actions if needed. Celebrating your victories will remind also yourself of the great job you are doing and that little fun will maintain that motivation that is needed to keep along until you reach your goal.
6) Increase Your Ability Along Your Way
Improving is what will ensure increasing performance along the way. This will increase your ability to cope with the challenges you are going to face and make things easier and easier. This will made every challenge a learning experience and, finally, will increase your speed and power.
There are many effective programs available on the net to help you doing this. You can program yourself for success and create positive motivation in life for work, health and success on autopilot by just listening your way to success and abundance with the Quantum Mind Power program.
7) The Seventh Ingredient
There is a seventh ingredient in the recipe for success and this is happiness. It's different than the other ones as it's underlying everything you do and you think. Happiness is the great motivator and its expectancy makes us run towards our goals.
Well the good news is that happiness is really a condition of mind. And as every act of mind, you can create it at will. Happiness is already inside you and you have just to awake it. This is why no goal will make you really happy, unless you already are. If you won't unlock the happiness inside you, no success will satisfy you. To find your happiness, just keep asking yourself what is making you happy right now in your life. Your mind will focus on it and will start creating it.
Finally...
Start your quest and remember to look for the happiness inside you. Develop your Success Strategy; increase your ability with appropriate tools and the recipe for success will support you in reaching your dreams. Do it now.
1) Believe in Yourself
The higher the success you are aiming at, the harder will be the path to it. Many people already left in their own path to that very kind of success. Your path will be different from theirs if you'll believe in yourself.
Remember that failure is common and is just a signal that you are going to do better next time. So remember this and don't let that bring you down.
Understand your strengths and recognise your weakness, then exploit both: to make a difference when you have the opportunity, and to ask for help when times are going tough.
2) Be Realistic About The Results You Want
Being realistic with the results you want will increase your success likelihood. The same has to be with the kind of things you are going to do to reach your dreams. Don't make things too hard at the start, or will be then harder for you persisting when time will come.
3) Identify Your Goals
Now that your dreams have been mitigated with a realistic approach, it's time to set your goals. In fact without a direction you'll go everywhere and anywhere. The most important ingredient of your recipe for success is to identify your goals. There are three things to do when you have identified each goal: write it down, set a plan for it and set a deadline. Remember: be realistic, and things will be easier.
4) Develop a Success Strategy
If you just apply the first three steps of your recipe to success and then get moving, you'll get started in your pathway to reach your goals.
Your path won't be easy, but being realistic will get you started. Keep persisting and you'll reach your goal. To make this easier, you have to develop a Success Strategy that will keep you on road. You can discover The Five Pillars of Every Great Success Strategy at my website.
5) Go and Celebrate
Finally you have to work hard and persist along your plan. When a roadblock comes, find a different way to reach the same results. Remember: persistence in your goals, but change your actions if needed. Celebrating your victories will remind also yourself of the great job you are doing and that little fun will maintain that motivation that is needed to keep along until you reach your goal.
6) Increase Your Ability Along Your Way
Improving is what will ensure increasing performance along the way. This will increase your ability to cope with the challenges you are going to face and make things easier and easier. This will made every challenge a learning experience and, finally, will increase your speed and power.
There are many effective programs available on the net to help you doing this. You can program yourself for success and create positive motivation in life for work, health and success on autopilot by just listening your way to success and abundance with the Quantum Mind Power program.
7) The Seventh Ingredient
There is a seventh ingredient in the recipe for success and this is happiness. It's different than the other ones as it's underlying everything you do and you think. Happiness is the great motivator and its expectancy makes us run towards our goals.
Well the good news is that happiness is really a condition of mind. And as every act of mind, you can create it at will. Happiness is already inside you and you have just to awake it. This is why no goal will make you really happy, unless you already are. If you won't unlock the happiness inside you, no success will satisfy you. To find your happiness, just keep asking yourself what is making you happy right now in your life. Your mind will focus on it and will start creating it.
Finally...
Start your quest and remember to look for the happiness inside you. Develop your Success Strategy; increase your ability with appropriate tools and the recipe for success will support you in reaching your dreams. Do it now.
Sunday 24 February 2013
Love Is The Answer To Happiness
The thesis of this discourse is this: love is the answer to happiness.
Love, the most powerful force in creation, is also the most misunderstood.
It is misunderstood because of the context with which it arises: that of relationship. All relationships imply love, either an offering of it or a withdrawal of it. Thus, our understanding of love is conditioned by varying degrees of attachment and aversion. And because of this, there is an element of self-protection that is projected outwardly and becomes control.
Thus, our understanding of love is completely contaminated by all the associations that arise from it.
So what we have then is conditional love; love that is allowed if certain conditions are met.
In truth, none of this is really love, just as a delicious meal, sprinkled with some mud cannot be said to be appetizing any longer.
Love, real love, is acceptance. That is all it is. Simply accepting what is. From that acceptance flows giving and caring, nurturing and compassion.
When you see a beautiful flower wet with dew, you feel an out-flowing force from your heart. This emotion is love. It is a complete acceptance of the flower. You may call it beauty or appreciation, but it is really love.
A mother, seeing her child sleeping peacefully, feels love. This is a pure acceptance of the being of the other. Of course, when the child is awake, shouting, crying, and arguing, expressing it's being in a radical way, breaking some social convention of one sort or another, the mother's love is still there, but now it is mixed up with other emotions, anger, confusion, embarrassment. Thus, control is now exerted. A tension visits the relationship and the love that is implied in it is clouded over, at the heart of which are various degrees of non-acceptance.
When the love is uninterrupted, as in the still flower or the sleeping child, it is pure. It is spontaneous. When conditions are imposed, the love becomes something else, not quite definable, but definitely not as spontaneous, pure, and free.
What made Mother Teresa a lover of life? She accepted what was before her. Poverty, disease, and distressing situations. Her love then moved her to give, and the giving was to provide relief to the other.
Love that has conditions, that exerts control to bring the other into alignment with one's belief systems is not real love. There may be elements of love in it, but it is tarnished with some desire for egoic gain. The other must love back. The other must be appreciative. The other must return something to us.
Philosophers, poets, and spiritual people have long believed that love is the central force that holds the universe together. The physical union of love creates children. The emotional union of love creates families and nations. The intellectual union of love creates ideas, discoveries, and inventions. Philosophically, one can even say that the union of subatomic elements in relationship to each other or of planetary bodies in relationship to each other is part of that harmonious, blending, accepting energy that we call love.
Love does not necessarily mean approval. One cannot truly love something despicable. But love does mean acceptance. And once there is acceptance, there is understanding and insight, and if change is necessary for well-being, it is done with wisdom, not reactive emotion.
If human beings were committed to studying love and applying it, the entire planet would change rapidly, and instead of our continued creation of chaos, harmony and cooperation would occur. All sorts of wonderful prospering circumstances for the well-being of all life would emerge.
But as a species, we associate contention with intelligence and survival, and as long as we prefer exclusion to inclusion, we will continue to wreck our own lives and the world in general with our confused thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
When we begin an inquiry into love, then the journey to right living can be said to begin. What is right living? That which provides well-being for self and other. When well-being is high, there is a feeling of safety and acceptance, which creates happiness, a sense that all is well, good, and true and that we need not guard against sorrow.
The summum bonum of all life is happiness. It is the ultimate motive, the end of all striving. Yet this happiness does not come uninvited. It feels invited when love is present.
Love, the most powerful force in creation, is also the most misunderstood.
It is misunderstood because of the context with which it arises: that of relationship. All relationships imply love, either an offering of it or a withdrawal of it. Thus, our understanding of love is conditioned by varying degrees of attachment and aversion. And because of this, there is an element of self-protection that is projected outwardly and becomes control.
Thus, our understanding of love is completely contaminated by all the associations that arise from it.
So what we have then is conditional love; love that is allowed if certain conditions are met.
In truth, none of this is really love, just as a delicious meal, sprinkled with some mud cannot be said to be appetizing any longer.
Love, real love, is acceptance. That is all it is. Simply accepting what is. From that acceptance flows giving and caring, nurturing and compassion.
When you see a beautiful flower wet with dew, you feel an out-flowing force from your heart. This emotion is love. It is a complete acceptance of the flower. You may call it beauty or appreciation, but it is really love.
A mother, seeing her child sleeping peacefully, feels love. This is a pure acceptance of the being of the other. Of course, when the child is awake, shouting, crying, and arguing, expressing it's being in a radical way, breaking some social convention of one sort or another, the mother's love is still there, but now it is mixed up with other emotions, anger, confusion, embarrassment. Thus, control is now exerted. A tension visits the relationship and the love that is implied in it is clouded over, at the heart of which are various degrees of non-acceptance.
When the love is uninterrupted, as in the still flower or the sleeping child, it is pure. It is spontaneous. When conditions are imposed, the love becomes something else, not quite definable, but definitely not as spontaneous, pure, and free.
What made Mother Teresa a lover of life? She accepted what was before her. Poverty, disease, and distressing situations. Her love then moved her to give, and the giving was to provide relief to the other.
Love that has conditions, that exerts control to bring the other into alignment with one's belief systems is not real love. There may be elements of love in it, but it is tarnished with some desire for egoic gain. The other must love back. The other must be appreciative. The other must return something to us.
Philosophers, poets, and spiritual people have long believed that love is the central force that holds the universe together. The physical union of love creates children. The emotional union of love creates families and nations. The intellectual union of love creates ideas, discoveries, and inventions. Philosophically, one can even say that the union of subatomic elements in relationship to each other or of planetary bodies in relationship to each other is part of that harmonious, blending, accepting energy that we call love.
Love does not necessarily mean approval. One cannot truly love something despicable. But love does mean acceptance. And once there is acceptance, there is understanding and insight, and if change is necessary for well-being, it is done with wisdom, not reactive emotion.
If human beings were committed to studying love and applying it, the entire planet would change rapidly, and instead of our continued creation of chaos, harmony and cooperation would occur. All sorts of wonderful prospering circumstances for the well-being of all life would emerge.
But as a species, we associate contention with intelligence and survival, and as long as we prefer exclusion to inclusion, we will continue to wreck our own lives and the world in general with our confused thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
When we begin an inquiry into love, then the journey to right living can be said to begin. What is right living? That which provides well-being for self and other. When well-being is high, there is a feeling of safety and acceptance, which creates happiness, a sense that all is well, good, and true and that we need not guard against sorrow.
The summum bonum of all life is happiness. It is the ultimate motive, the end of all striving. Yet this happiness does not come uninvited. It feels invited when love is present.
Staying Motivated for Success
Staying Motivated for Success
Many roads to success exist, and the choices can be overwhelming. And once you have decided upon a path, there is also the possibility of encountering a number of road blocks along the way. In fact, road blocks are fairly likely. Some people let these road blocks stop them from pursuing their goals. Heck, some people stop at the point of deciding which road to go down. But if you’ve got a goal … a goal you’re serious about reaching … you have to stay motivated. And if you want to stay motivated all the way to the fruition of your goal, you’ve got to have a plan for how you’re going to maintain that motivation. With proper motivation, along with a plan for long term motivation, virtually any goal is within your reach, and even the most daunting of road blocks suddenly become minor inconveniences. KPSA Radio is dedicated to helping its listeners develop techniques to stay motivated over the long haul, no matter how big (or small) their goals. Here are a few tips to get you started on the path to realizing your dreams:
1. Develop a Clear Vision
No great dream was ever accomplished by anyone who did not first see the end result clearly in their mind. This doesn’t mean that you can predict exactly how everything will go along the way, but if you can keep your goal clearly pictured in your mind, no matter what obstacles may present them selves along the way, you will find a way to fruition of your dream. A positive mental attitude is a huge part of this process, as well.
2. Take Action
It’s a funny thing, but you would be surprised to learn just how many people create grand plans and then fail to take action. Life does not just happen, my friends. Of course, we all know this, but sometimes we take it for granted. If you have a dream, make a plan and then, most importantly, act on it. You might succeed. You might fail. But what have you done if you haven’t tried. This is another example of how a positive outlook helps people succeed in their dreams.
3. Embrace Success
Even for those of us who have already learned this lesson, it sounds and feels like a ridiculous point to have to be driven home, but the fact remains that we, as human beings, have difficulty accepting our dreams. So, you know what we do? Just when we are at the cusp of success, we drive it back. At first blush that sounds crazy, right? But think about it. Yep…you’ve done it, haven’t you? The final step of realizing our dreams is to accept them as they arrive into our lives; to believe we deserve all this. Again…there’s that positive mindset in action.
The road to success doesn’t have to be long or hard. More importantly, the road to success is personal; different for each individual. The things, however, which all roads to success have in common are these; a dream, a belief in that dream, and a belief in oneself to stay motivated and reach those goals. You can do it!
Many roads to success exist, and the choices can be overwhelming. And once you have decided upon a path, there is also the possibility of encountering a number of road blocks along the way. In fact, road blocks are fairly likely. Some people let these road blocks stop them from pursuing their goals. Heck, some people stop at the point of deciding which road to go down. But if you’ve got a goal … a goal you’re serious about reaching … you have to stay motivated. And if you want to stay motivated all the way to the fruition of your goal, you’ve got to have a plan for how you’re going to maintain that motivation. With proper motivation, along with a plan for long term motivation, virtually any goal is within your reach, and even the most daunting of road blocks suddenly become minor inconveniences. KPSA Radio is dedicated to helping its listeners develop techniques to stay motivated over the long haul, no matter how big (or small) their goals. Here are a few tips to get you started on the path to realizing your dreams:
1. Develop a Clear Vision
No great dream was ever accomplished by anyone who did not first see the end result clearly in their mind. This doesn’t mean that you can predict exactly how everything will go along the way, but if you can keep your goal clearly pictured in your mind, no matter what obstacles may present them selves along the way, you will find a way to fruition of your dream. A positive mental attitude is a huge part of this process, as well.
2. Take Action
It’s a funny thing, but you would be surprised to learn just how many people create grand plans and then fail to take action. Life does not just happen, my friends. Of course, we all know this, but sometimes we take it for granted. If you have a dream, make a plan and then, most importantly, act on it. You might succeed. You might fail. But what have you done if you haven’t tried. This is another example of how a positive outlook helps people succeed in their dreams.
3. Embrace Success
Even for those of us who have already learned this lesson, it sounds and feels like a ridiculous point to have to be driven home, but the fact remains that we, as human beings, have difficulty accepting our dreams. So, you know what we do? Just when we are at the cusp of success, we drive it back. At first blush that sounds crazy, right? But think about it. Yep…you’ve done it, haven’t you? The final step of realizing our dreams is to accept them as they arrive into our lives; to believe we deserve all this. Again…there’s that positive mindset in action.
The road to success doesn’t have to be long or hard. More importantly, the road to success is personal; different for each individual. The things, however, which all roads to success have in common are these; a dream, a belief in that dream, and a belief in oneself to stay motivated and reach those goals. You can do it!
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